It was the third day of the foundations training program of the new company where I was hired and we were asked to speak or make a speech with a topic that you'll be picking from a "fish bowl" (though its container is not a really a fish bowl) just like a beauty contest Q&A portion. I was so nervous and a bit shaky cause I thought it will be like an "impromptu" thing and I know in myself that I'm not that confident with my oral communication skills. As I open the small folded paper, my mind is already somewhere thinking of what type of question will I be getting... and the question goes like this
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE THING TO DO IN THE SUMMER? WHY? (i found it grammatically wrong and good enough the trainer corrected it at the latter part when I read it out loud during my speech)
I had difficulty thinking of the favorite thing I do during summer because my activity usually depends on the mood I am feeling. Then, I realized that there is one thing I love doing even if it's not summer but is more fun and convenient doing it during summer, and that is TRAVELLING!...
I was trying to compose a draft in a paper hoping I could read it out in front of my co-trainees but we were told that we are not allowed to do so and I ended up messing up my whole "script" where I am supposed to say a lot of things but ended up telling, I think half only of what's in my mind. But If I'll be given a chance to give out that speech again by reading it, my manuscript would be like this....
Filipinos, especially old folks give meanings to the moles around our body, and I would always remember my grandmother telling me that I would be a traveller when I grow up and that's because I have a mole on my foot. I didn't know if I ingested that idea so much that I had became what my grandmother thought I would be one day and since the best time to do all the travelling is during the dry season, It has become my favorite thing to do during summer.
Why travelling?...
For a person like me who worry so much and who easily get nervous with doing new things, travelling is a big challenge. I am a so scared of riding an airplane or a boat. I easily get dizzy when riding a jeepney or bus when I was younger and as far as I can remember, I even get nauseous and will vomit during a travel with around 3-5 kilometers distance. As I mature, I overcome those nauseousness, vomitting and a bit of scared feelings but I always make sure that I travel during the safest time of the year.
Travelling had been the quality time I spend with my kids during summer since they are also free from school works. We are like a "travelling family" that we really make it to the point that we have one out of town place to visit.
The good weather also give me additional strength to travel because there are no weather disturbances that will make me feel uncomfortable if I'm on the plane or on the ship. Making summer really is the best time for me to do my "vice"
Lastly, but of course not the least... summer is the best time to take "Memorabilias"... souvenir photos of the place you've been... Since the rain is out of sight, it's a clear sky and i know he would also like to take photos of what we supposed to be or do...
Saturday, June 29, 2013
Sunday, June 23, 2013
New Relationships Do's and Dont's
I found this article a good read for my dating friends...so i decided to post it here...
New Relationships Do's and Dont's
The first few weeks of the love game is when one of two things might happen: romance and passion infects you, bonding your hearts forever more, or one of you flops and ruins the chemistry before it has a chance to take hold. Which will it be for you? Heed our tips and make sure your relationship kicks off with a bang.
Conversation
Have normal, get-to-know-you conversations. Talking incessantly about how you feel and how great things are going between the two of you is nothing short of obnoxious. It projects a certain amount of immaturity that repels the good dates and attracts the wrong ones.
Pressure
Pressuring your date to do anything is a big no-no. Once again, it is a sign of relationship immaturity as well as personal immaturity. You could beg your date to go to church with your family on Sunday or argue good reasons to stay the night with you -- the nature of your pressuring doesn't matter. What matters is that you are selfishly disrespecting your date’s boundaries. If a relationship starts off with one person pressing on the other’s limits or preferences, there are bound to be loads of regret by the end of it.
Taking Hints
Pay attention to the clues your date is giving you. They may be inviting more intimacy, they may be trying to show you where their boundaries are, or they may be trying to subtly tell you that you’ve got dragon breath. Either way, you want to know, so pay attention. If you aren’t sure, ask; it is a far better option than making the wrong assumption.
Texts and Phone Calls
Refrain from over-calling/texting to keep things light and friendly. Remember the guidelines for conversation even when texting. The “I miss you” text every day when you only just met is really annoying. Not until you are an “official” couple is it appropriate to text or call to talk about your emotions or anything sexual. Don’t call or text to tell them how nice their butt looked the night before. Save that sort of flattery for when you are in the moment, and even then, use it sparingly because it can easily be construed as trashy and rude. What you should focus on is getting to know the other person and letting them get to know you. Think of it this way… After every message or every phone conversation, the other person is going to mull over it in their mind and might even talk about it with a friend. They will dismantle every word you said and search for more meaning behind the words.
Honesty
Everybody wants to put their best foot forward in a new dating relationship, but don’t pretend to be someone you are not. In turn, watch for warning signs that your date isn’t all they seem to be. Dishonesty, especially misrepresenting themselves, is a big red flag that shouldn’t be ignored. When you do get a clue that there are major differences in areas like spirituality, family, social ethics, or politics, be honest with yourself about the possibility of being truly happy with them. You are looking for a match and so are they.
Gut Instincts
Listen to your gut. If you hear the little alarms going off inside of you, pay attention to them. It is easy to brush your feelings to the side in an effort to fall in love, but when you ignore your instincts over and over again, it gets more difficult to recognize when they are trying to alert you. Most of the time, later on in a relationship or a while after a relationship, one can look back and see the exact time during the first few weeks (many times in the first couple of days) that they had a gut feeling about their date and it turned out to be right.
Judgment
Don’t be too quick to judge. Sometimes it is wise to look at yourself just as critically during a new relationship. For instance, if you are often turned off by how little men spend on you when they take you out, perhaps it is your value system that needs a check-up rather than theirs.
Maintaining Your Self
Don’t drop everything else in your life. It is common, especially for women, to forget about themselves and take on the identity of their partners. That is the consequence of bad past relationships and lack of positive relationship role models. You can prevent losing yourself in a new relationship by keeping the things that matter to you a part of your daily life. Things like journaling, reading, exercising, and spending time with friends and family, all the things that help to keep you a healthy, balanced person, should remain high on your priority list. Make a point to enjoy the same things you normally do, even in the first weeks of a new romance.
Lowering the Bar
Keep your standards high. Don’t talk yourself into being okay with something that you aren’t. Settling is a sure way to get yourself into a miserable relationship. Do you remember the last time you said to yourself, “I should have known when they… ?” If you aren’t sure what your standard is, make a list of all the things you want in a partner. If your date doesn’t fit the bill, don’t waist your precious time.
Planning and Paying
It is a great idea to trade off date planning and date funding. Not to say that it should be a regulated arrangement of every other date or anything, but stepping away from the traditional system of men planning and paying for all dates can be a lot of fun and make it easier to get to know each other. Taking control of the rendezvous enables you to surprise them, impress them, and romance them. In addition, you can learn a lot about them by switching roles.
Alcohol Consumption
The general rule is to stay relatively sober for at least the first month of dating someone. Getting sloshy drunk anytime in those first few weeks is likely to be your kiss of death. They will undoubtedly see you at your worst and redeeming yourself from that is not an easy feat.
Meeting Friends, Family, and the Ex Ease your new love interest into your social circles. Start off by introducing them to a few select friends, particularly those who help you “screen” prospective mates. An introduction to family members, especially parents, and ex’s, even if they are still a part of your life, shouldn’t happen until you are at least approaching a month of dating. Why? Besides being a little weird and moving too fast, you want to wait because it takes a while to establish comfort levels in social situations. This will give you time to learn to recognize each other’s cues and know enough about each other that an “inner circle" situation isn’t uncomfortable.
Keeping Your Distance
Don’t overwhelm them with attention. Don’t invite yourself over more than once a week, and don’t smother them with physical affection when you are together. You may feel the urge to reach out and touch their sweet face over and over again, but refrain because it is uncomfortable. Men and women often make the mistake of jumping into “couple” behaviors like smooching, holding hands, using terms of endearment, and touching them in sexual ways too soon and scaring off their dates. I will again reiterate that getting to know someone for who they are as an individual should be the focus of a new relationship. Too often, people get caught up in the romance before realizing how little they actually know about their partner.
Skeletons
New Relationships Do's and Dont's
The first few weeks of the love game is when one of two things might happen: romance and passion infects you, bonding your hearts forever more, or one of you flops and ruins the chemistry before it has a chance to take hold. Which will it be for you? Heed our tips and make sure your relationship kicks off with a bang.
Conversation
Have normal, get-to-know-you conversations. Talking incessantly about how you feel and how great things are going between the two of you is nothing short of obnoxious. It projects a certain amount of immaturity that repels the good dates and attracts the wrong ones.
Pressure
Pressuring your date to do anything is a big no-no. Once again, it is a sign of relationship immaturity as well as personal immaturity. You could beg your date to go to church with your family on Sunday or argue good reasons to stay the night with you -- the nature of your pressuring doesn't matter. What matters is that you are selfishly disrespecting your date’s boundaries. If a relationship starts off with one person pressing on the other’s limits or preferences, there are bound to be loads of regret by the end of it.
Taking Hints
Pay attention to the clues your date is giving you. They may be inviting more intimacy, they may be trying to show you where their boundaries are, or they may be trying to subtly tell you that you’ve got dragon breath. Either way, you want to know, so pay attention. If you aren’t sure, ask; it is a far better option than making the wrong assumption.
Texts and Phone Calls
Refrain from over-calling/texting to keep things light and friendly. Remember the guidelines for conversation even when texting. The “I miss you” text every day when you only just met is really annoying. Not until you are an “official” couple is it appropriate to text or call to talk about your emotions or anything sexual. Don’t call or text to tell them how nice their butt looked the night before. Save that sort of flattery for when you are in the moment, and even then, use it sparingly because it can easily be construed as trashy and rude. What you should focus on is getting to know the other person and letting them get to know you. Think of it this way… After every message or every phone conversation, the other person is going to mull over it in their mind and might even talk about it with a friend. They will dismantle every word you said and search for more meaning behind the words.
Honesty
Everybody wants to put their best foot forward in a new dating relationship, but don’t pretend to be someone you are not. In turn, watch for warning signs that your date isn’t all they seem to be. Dishonesty, especially misrepresenting themselves, is a big red flag that shouldn’t be ignored. When you do get a clue that there are major differences in areas like spirituality, family, social ethics, or politics, be honest with yourself about the possibility of being truly happy with them. You are looking for a match and so are they.
Gut Instincts
Listen to your gut. If you hear the little alarms going off inside of you, pay attention to them. It is easy to brush your feelings to the side in an effort to fall in love, but when you ignore your instincts over and over again, it gets more difficult to recognize when they are trying to alert you. Most of the time, later on in a relationship or a while after a relationship, one can look back and see the exact time during the first few weeks (many times in the first couple of days) that they had a gut feeling about their date and it turned out to be right.
Judgment
Don’t be too quick to judge. Sometimes it is wise to look at yourself just as critically during a new relationship. For instance, if you are often turned off by how little men spend on you when they take you out, perhaps it is your value system that needs a check-up rather than theirs.
Maintaining Your Self
Don’t drop everything else in your life. It is common, especially for women, to forget about themselves and take on the identity of their partners. That is the consequence of bad past relationships and lack of positive relationship role models. You can prevent losing yourself in a new relationship by keeping the things that matter to you a part of your daily life. Things like journaling, reading, exercising, and spending time with friends and family, all the things that help to keep you a healthy, balanced person, should remain high on your priority list. Make a point to enjoy the same things you normally do, even in the first weeks of a new romance.
Lowering the Bar
Keep your standards high. Don’t talk yourself into being okay with something that you aren’t. Settling is a sure way to get yourself into a miserable relationship. Do you remember the last time you said to yourself, “I should have known when they… ?” If you aren’t sure what your standard is, make a list of all the things you want in a partner. If your date doesn’t fit the bill, don’t waist your precious time.
Planning and Paying
It is a great idea to trade off date planning and date funding. Not to say that it should be a regulated arrangement of every other date or anything, but stepping away from the traditional system of men planning and paying for all dates can be a lot of fun and make it easier to get to know each other. Taking control of the rendezvous enables you to surprise them, impress them, and romance them. In addition, you can learn a lot about them by switching roles.
Alcohol Consumption
The general rule is to stay relatively sober for at least the first month of dating someone. Getting sloshy drunk anytime in those first few weeks is likely to be your kiss of death. They will undoubtedly see you at your worst and redeeming yourself from that is not an easy feat.
Meeting Friends, Family, and the Ex Ease your new love interest into your social circles. Start off by introducing them to a few select friends, particularly those who help you “screen” prospective mates. An introduction to family members, especially parents, and ex’s, even if they are still a part of your life, shouldn’t happen until you are at least approaching a month of dating. Why? Besides being a little weird and moving too fast, you want to wait because it takes a while to establish comfort levels in social situations. This will give you time to learn to recognize each other’s cues and know enough about each other that an “inner circle" situation isn’t uncomfortable.
Keeping Your Distance
Don’t overwhelm them with attention. Don’t invite yourself over more than once a week, and don’t smother them with physical affection when you are together. You may feel the urge to reach out and touch their sweet face over and over again, but refrain because it is uncomfortable. Men and women often make the mistake of jumping into “couple” behaviors like smooching, holding hands, using terms of endearment, and touching them in sexual ways too soon and scaring off their dates. I will again reiterate that getting to know someone for who they are as an individual should be the focus of a new relationship. Too often, people get caught up in the romance before realizing how little they actually know about their partner.
Skeletons
Everybody has their dirty little secrets, and it wouldn’t be good for you to go telling them to every person you date, but you might want to drop a hint here and there to test the waters. In those first couple of weeks, be as honest as you would like them to be with you. For some couples, after a few dates and things are going well, it could help to discuss the fact that you both have pasts and that you should share them later on down the road. Just make sure that when that one month mark (or comparable milestone) comes around, you let them know some of the details of the skeletons you alluded to. Otherwise, they become secrets that will surely hinder your relationship.
by Brettani Shannon
credits to: Lovingyou.com and the author stated above...
Poetry from the heart
I have composed this poem, from quite sometime but everytime, i look at her everything I wrote here flashback to my mind... the first greatest gift i had from God...
MY MIA
When I decided to have you,
i know, it will not be easy...
i know, i will lose a lot..
i know, i will have no more time for my self..
i know, i may be stuck up
i know, everything will change...
i know, i will never be the same...
i know, i need to sacrifies.
When i decided to have you,
i never know it will be like this,
i never know that i can be like this,
i never know that i can be better,
i never know that i could love someone like this...
BUT...
when i had you..
i have felt the contentment,
i have felt my worth,
i learn what love really is,
i become a better person
YOU made me whole...
From the first time i held you in my arms
I know i will be changed,
i know i will be different,
i know i will always be with you
i know i can do all for you.
I have loved you my daughter from the first time you had a life...
From the first day i have felt you inside my womb,
i love you, no matter how or what people may think of you...
i will stay inlove with you even if you have found somebody else to love you too...
i will always stay with you, how ever distant i may be...
i know i will love you ... even after my life on earth is finished.
Sunday, is Family Day!
Nothing so unusual, nor special today but what makes it "one of the best days" is the family bonding time we had earlier...
We started the Family Day by visiting and having quality time with Our Father, Our Creator and Our Saviour, heard the mass and gave thanks to Him for all the blessings that He had showered us. Had a chance to bump with some relatives before hubby drove us to have a good lunch...
We made our stop at bonifacio high street in bonifacio global city...
we walked the stretch of street searching for a good place to have lunch and found out that it offers a lot of food variety, from asian to mediterranean to italian and a lot more... but we ended up stick with traditional filipino cuisine and dined in at KABISERA, i think it's a Dencio's group of restaurants...
We started the Family Day by visiting and having quality time with Our Father, Our Creator and Our Saviour, heard the mass and gave thanks to Him for all the blessings that He had showered us. Had a chance to bump with some relatives before hubby drove us to have a good lunch...
We made our stop at bonifacio high street in bonifacio global city...
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My kids enjoyed the food we ordered such as
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| crispy pata... their version of this Fried pork knuckles is really crispy and quite big as well, nice to deep in their vinegar-soy sauce mixture with chilli... |
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| What's good with their version of garlic rice is that it doesn't contain too much oil, i was thinking that it's more of steamed rice with a twist of the garlic flavor and they topped it up with garlic bits. |
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| Their own version of pinakbet which they called bahay-kubo, if i'm not mistaken is as good as my grandmother's pinakbet, the veggies are fresh and crunchy as you bite them, i love munching the "sigarillas" and "sitaw"... yum, yum... |
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| The molo soup which my kids really loved comes with shredded chicken the soup really tasted like they used native chicken because the taste of chicken is really into it. |
After the sumptous lunch, we went to a nearby arcade to play with the kids, until it my little boy who asked us if he can have his milk because he was sleepy already. We went home, I think only my husband was awake in the whole journey back, since he is the one driving... :-)
Thursday, June 20, 2013
Singapore Botanical Garden
Some of the Photoshoot I did at Singapore Botanical Garden... "Mowdels" were... Maja Margarett Sierra and Rolynh Delima...with special participation of Mia Villanueva and myself...
Bora,Bora,Bora We have Explored You!
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| Welcome to Kalibo Airport |
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| Ati-Atihan Costume Behind us |
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| fun in the sun |
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| the hotel |
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| we're walking on sunshine! |
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| yummy crab |
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| nice view |
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| steak house boracay |
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| lobster, lobster, lobster |
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| fire dancer |
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| nice sand sculpture |
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| breakfast with kiddos |
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| the couple |
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| white sand, blue water and me |
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| love that view |
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| okidokidok ang ganda! |
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| tong-tong-tong-tong pakitong kitong! |
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| sunbathing... |
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