I read this one in a blog entry of PHILIPPINE NURSES ASSOCIATION... I think this might help some of my male friends who read blogs...
Is it true that the smarter a guy is, the worse he does with women? Maybe not, but I've noticed that smart guys make ten big mistakes with women that ruin their chances from the start. If you think you're a smart guy, read the list and see if you're doing something wrong.
Mistake #1: Thinking you're always right - or should be. As a smart guy, you're almost always right - and being wrong is a blow to your pride. When you're with women, you can be wrong in several things, and never admitting it turns women off.
Mistake #2: Being blind and arrogant. You might think that you can handle all situations, but you really don't. And when you try to be "cool" by trying to handle everything, you'll only end up making a fool of yourself in front of her.
Mistake #3: Poor social skills. Social skills are learned. They're not theories or procedures to be formulated - they're skills. If you won't learn them, you won't get women.
Mistake #4: You don't even try. Some smart guys get "analysis paralysis." You spend so much time planning an approach to women instead of actually just going out and learning how. And when you can't figure it out, you don't even try. Not smart at all.
Mistake #5: You look for rational explanations. Smart guys love information, and tend to believe that everything can be explained rationally. You can go ahead and rationalize why a relationship won't work, but you totally can't rationalize attraction. If you try to, you'll lose it.
Mistake #6: Focusing on logic instead of emotion. Trust me - women aren't attracted to men who make them think. That's the friends zone. Women are more attracted to men who make them feel.
Mistake #7: Not being used to spur-of-the-moment. Smart guys are used to having a lot of time to figure things out, like in tests and IQ puzzles. But when something comes up right in the middle of a date, they freeze up!
Mistake #8: Being too nice. Smart guys think that taking her out to her favorite meal or getting her a bouquet of her favorite flowers is the right way to her heart. Well, news flash - any wussy can do the same thing. Do yourself a favor, take control, and surprise her every now and then.
Mistake #9: Always being the "expert." Here's a tip: it's okay to be a beginner in certain things. It'll even give her the opportunity to teach you a thing or two. Don't pretend to know everything - where's the fun in that?
Mistake #10: Can't deal with fear and other emotions. Finally, smart guys have trouble with their emotions. But when you're in touch with your emotions, both good and bad, she'll find it easier to relate with you.
Is it true that the smarter a guy is, the worse he does with women? Maybe not, but I've noticed that smart guys make ten big mistakes with women that ruin their chances from the start. If you think you're a smart guy, read the list and see if you're doing something wrong.
Mistake #1: Thinking you're always right - or should be. As a smart guy, you're almost always right - and being wrong is a blow to your pride. When you're with women, you can be wrong in several things, and never admitting it turns women off.
Mistake #2: Being blind and arrogant. You might think that you can handle all situations, but you really don't. And when you try to be "cool" by trying to handle everything, you'll only end up making a fool of yourself in front of her.
Mistake #3: Poor social skills. Social skills are learned. They're not theories or procedures to be formulated - they're skills. If you won't learn them, you won't get women.
Mistake #4: You don't even try. Some smart guys get "analysis paralysis." You spend so much time planning an approach to women instead of actually just going out and learning how. And when you can't figure it out, you don't even try. Not smart at all.
Mistake #5: You look for rational explanations. Smart guys love information, and tend to believe that everything can be explained rationally. You can go ahead and rationalize why a relationship won't work, but you totally can't rationalize attraction. If you try to, you'll lose it.
Mistake #6: Focusing on logic instead of emotion. Trust me - women aren't attracted to men who make them think. That's the friends zone. Women are more attracted to men who make them feel.
Mistake #7: Not being used to spur-of-the-moment. Smart guys are used to having a lot of time to figure things out, like in tests and IQ puzzles. But when something comes up right in the middle of a date, they freeze up!
Mistake #8: Being too nice. Smart guys think that taking her out to her favorite meal or getting her a bouquet of her favorite flowers is the right way to her heart. Well, news flash - any wussy can do the same thing. Do yourself a favor, take control, and surprise her every now and then.
Mistake #9: Always being the "expert." Here's a tip: it's okay to be a beginner in certain things. It'll even give her the opportunity to teach you a thing or two. Don't pretend to know everything - where's the fun in that?
Mistake #10: Can't deal with fear and other emotions. Finally, smart guys have trouble with their emotions. But when you're in touch with your emotions, both good and bad, she'll find it easier to relate with you.
