Feb 29, 2008 Post How to make your Man "Agaw-Proof"

I was scanning a back issue of cosmopolitan magazine when an article caught my attention:  it was about making your man "AGAW-PROOF"... i know some of my friends here would also be interested in the contents of this article, so i summarized it and decided to post it here....
the checklist goes like this....
1.BE ALL EARS - while we girls (este woman na pala ako) love to talk and talk without being interrupted, men also want us to hear them... so, Discover what he really needs, so you know how best to fulfill them.Listen to your man--it's the best way to discover what he's really craving.Girls, makinig naman tayo, usually kasi ang gusto natin tayo lang ang pinakikinggan, but in reality, Men also want to  be heard..they want someone to listen,encourage and give support minus the judgment.Your agaw-proof action is to strengthen and affirm his sense of self--who he is,his identity.Take time to know what he's really looking for, find out what he values.
2.KNOW HIS BUSINESS- Know everything about what he does for a living;the kind of job he has,the work environment he's in,and the many possibilities involved in his line of work.Remember,office or workplace is a venue very conducive to cheating.Your agaw-proof action is to be interested in his job.Do your own research about his line of work via internet,books,or friends in the same industry.at least alam mo kung anong "tinatrabaho nya."
3.ROCK THE BOAT - Keep him from straying by being fun and fearless.This means being UNAFRAID to speak up about any issues or problem--eventhough you know it may cause some temporary tampuhan moments between you and him.Address your feelings of dissatisfaction as they arise instead of suppresing negative issues.The sooner you speak up the faster you can work out the kinks and come up with a solution.
4.LOOSEN YOUR "NAKAKASAKAL" GRIP - Let go of the tight leash you have on your guy.Possessiveness is just plain UNCOOL and UNBECOMING.In the long run,it may drive your man to look the other way.Your agaw-proof action is to be aware of each other's emotional needs and learn to fulfill them.Give them space and time for him to grow on his own...remember you are two different individuals, you must live your own lives and have one for both of you.In that way, you have more things to tak about and it will create a feeling of "MISSING" each other.Let him feel that he's simply free to unwind on his own or with his friends --- HIS WAY!!!
5.MARK YOUR TERRITORY - Be visible,be very visible.  In your guy's world,it doesn't mean everyday kayong magkasama but remind the world that he's yours.Just do it subtly and with loads of class.don't be exagerrated like going everyday to their place (work or house) but make at least once a week that you visit him just like your going to bring something or simply make a small reason to be seen in their place with his friends seeing you at the same time.
6.DITCH THE C-WORD IN AN LQ - "C" means CHEATING! Don't use cheating as an emotional weapon during a fight.Your agaw-proof action,never threaten to cheat on him--even when you're both in the middle of a huge, heated quarrel.It's a "NO-NO" for us to say "maghahanap ako ng iba" or "kayang kaya kitang palitan kahit ilan at kahit sabay-sabay pa"
I'm hoping sa mga makakabasa, makatulong ng konti, specially those na "matatamaan!"